Does this daily activity give anyone else hives? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love dropping my boys off at school everyday but, let’s get real here.
Does anyone else have to pray specifically for self-control here or, is it just me. Like, just pull forward. Just pull. forward. PULL FORWARD!!! And if you’re in the car dropping kid off vs. have already dropped kid off, you get the right of way.
This is Unspoken Rule #1 that perhaps needs to be actually spoken. If there is a school official is reading this, please add this to the school newsletter.
So, clearly this environment is not peaceful OR calming to me so, I have to work a bit harder on self-control than I normally would. And by ‘a little’ I mean, ‘muster up every ounce I’ve got.’ And let’s just say today, I didn’t get around to that. And then it happened…I got served. I got straight up SERVED…by a 5 & 7-year old.
It started off like most mornings. The boys up way before they should be but, in great moods so, all good there. Ate half of the breakfast they just ‘had to have’ (Ace, that Applegate sausage was like $4/link. You’ll be having it for dinner then!), played in the basement and only got into my eyeliner once. Overall, pretty standard morning.
Usually they listen pretty well but, this morning, possibly due to the combined 6 hours of sleep the 3 of them got…in our bed, I had to tell them it was time to go literally 5 times. And mom’s maybe you can relate but, there’s nothing that tics me off more than having to say the same thing 5 times. Not listening has to be up there in the Top 2 things that send me over the edge. So, we get in the car, I’m clearly ticked and here’s where profound lesson #1 from God happens…through a 5-year-old.
Breaker: Mom, I didn’t know you meant like now is the time to go. I thought you meant it’s almost time to go (I’m going to let you off the hook here for your creativity, kid.) But, listen. Maybe next time you can not be upstairs and we be downstairs and you just come downstairs and say, ‘It’s time to go right now’ so we know it’s time to go and you don’t get mad.
Me: 😳 That’s actually a great idea, thanks, Break. I will absolutely do that next time.
Ok, so lesson in communication. This is good.
Go directly to the person you’re speaking to with a clear message instead of yelling across the room or across floors and then getting mad when they don’t receive your message. Check.
So, we get to school 4 minutes late (you guys all know that time multiplies like dog years in the drop-off line so, we were technically 28 minutes late) and the car in front of me was let’s just say, not yielding to Unspoken Rule #1. So, like any other normal human being would, I go around (and I may or may not have employed – let’s just say – aggressive driving tactics.)
Well, apparently, that is Unspoken Rule #2 in school – no cutting in line.
And here’s where lesson #2 from God happens…through a 7-year-old.
Charlie: Mom, that was driving like a maniac (I may or may not call people who drive too fast ‘maniacs’ in the pick-up line. But let’s just stick to the topic at hand here, k? K.) and that was not Jesus. You shouldn’t cut in line.
Me: 😳 (again) Charlie, you are so right. That was not nice and that was not Jesus.
Ok, so lesson in Christ-like behavior from my boys. Don’t cut in line. Check.
All that to say this…
Obviously, convicted and here’s what God showed me:
- The reason I was originally ticked had nothing to do with the boys not listening. I was convicted because it would’ve easily been prevented if I would’ve taken the time to communicate effectively to them and not just yell downstairs (but really, they should have obeyed because I know they heard me but, I digress.) Then I thought about how many times in my life (or day) I don’t listen and how GOOD God is and continues to shower me with grace, love and mercy. Humbling moment #1.
Ephesians 2:1-6 MSG
It wasn’t so long ago that you were mired in that old stagnant life of sin. You let the world, which doesn’t know the first thing about living, tell you how to live. You filled your lungs with polluted unbelief, and then exhaled disobedience. We all did it, all of us doing what we felt like doing, when we felt like doing it, all of us in the same boat. It’s a wonder God didn’t lose his temper and do away with the whole lot of us. Instead, immense in mercy and with an incredible love, he embraced us. He took our sin-dead lives and made us alive in Christ. He did all this on his own, with no help from us! Then he picked us up and set us down in highest heaven in company with Jesus, our Messiah.
- Have there been times in my life where I KNOW I heard God and chose not to move, aka being disobedient? Can I plead the 5th? No? Dang it, okay. YES.
Luke 11:28 (NIV)
He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”
Ok, so, I tried to find some ‘gentler’ scriptures about disobedience. Well, as it turns out, our God is pretty serious about disobedience. Take a look a what He says about it here.😬 So, let’s all just be obedient and let Him work IN and THROUGH us, K? K.
- Your kids are ALWAYS watching and listening. Always.
Proverbs 22:6The Message MSG
Point your kids in the right direction—
when they’re old they won’t be lost.
I love that Charlie called me out. We love Jesus and I am so proud of him for using his little (very big today) voice! But it convicted me in such a way that I’ll never forget. I don’t ever want my children (or anyone else, for that matter) to think that I just talk about faith and don’t walk it out. Do we all make mistakes? Yes. We are flawed humans living in a fallen world but, we must be intentional about being doers of the word not just hearers (or talkers.)
James 1:22 NIV
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.
Well. Ok, then. 😂
So, to sum this whole lesson up:
1. In the drop-off line, if you have the kid still in your car, the rules don’t apply to you and you get the right of way.
2. Your kids are always watching and listening and will duplicate what you do, not what you say.
3. God is so GOOD and wants to work in and through us. Check out some more scripture that is like mind-blowing about this.
4. Don’t cut in line.
Hope you guys have a great week and obey the rules of the school pick up and drop off-line! It’s cutthroat out there!